As everyone knows, the holidays can be really challenging for dieters.The numerous activities involving food, seasonal parties, familytraditions, and more all seem”out to get us.” The holidays may also bring up strong emotions that we areused to “comforting” with food. While these challenges may seem formidable,they are not insurmountable.Take a deep breath and ask yourself what kind of holiday you want to have.What is your vision for the coming year? What would you like to have bedifferent from past years? Who do you feel positive and upbeat around? Wholeaves you feeling drained and self-critical?
Here are a few tools to help you have a more peaceful holiday and extendyour resolve into the new year.
1. Be Prepared. Like a good scout, think ahead to likely problems. Tryto predict potential times and places that cause you high stress. Then makechoices about which events you will attend and which ones you won’t. If asocial situation is more likely to be stressful than enjoyable, you maywant to decline the invitation.
2. Strategize. Devise a strategy for food-centered events ahead of time.Don’t plant yourself by the hors d’oeuvres or buffet table. Busy yourselfby talking or helping, not eating. Don’t let shyness or feelings ofdiscomfort propel you to food. If you can’t think ofanything to say, just be a people-watcher.
3. Pay Attention To Hunger Cues. Many dieters, who hold off on eating inanticipation of an event find that eating just a little more than theirnormal level — that extrapiece of bread or mouthful of dessert — pushes them to a point where theycan no longer judge when they have had enough. As a result, they moreeasily overeat (or eat to a point of discomfort).
4. Commit. If the weight and eating goals you have set for yourself areimportant to you, then they must be given some priority in your life. Areyou honestly willing to do what it takes to make them happen? Like anyendeavor we undertake, changing your eating habits may take time, attentionand commitment. If managing your weight is a sincere goal, then go for it!If not, don’t waste your time, energy, money and self-esteem on somethingyou don’t see as a priority for yourself right now, and make peace with whoyou currently are. It’s your life, and only you can make this decision.
5. Keep Eating. Eat regular meals to help reduce the chance of binging orfocusing on food too much.
6. Indulge. Allow yourself some “treats,” if that’s what you need.Deprivation is not self-care and is more likely to lead to resentments,binges, or further lapses.
7. Be Patient. Most lifelong habits develop over time. Allow yourself todetermine what feelscomfortable, what is working and what is creating discomfort for you. Thensee if you can do something to turn these efforts into long-term commitments.
8. Recharge. Plan time for self-care, to regenerate, relax and refocuson your goals. This may mean talking a walk, going to the movies, immersingin a hot bath, listening to music, taking time to call a friend or lovedone, meditation time, or anything else that gives you a time-out to recharge.
9. Keep Moving. Set realistic steps for keeping active, even in shortincrements, to reach a daily activity goal. If you’re not the exercisetype, don’t forget cleaningthe house, parking your car further from the door, hauling groceries — andputting them away one by one so you’re up and down more — all contribute.Elevator, escalator or stairs? As a friend says, “Why ride when you can walk.”
Better, of course, is a regular exercise routine. It will not onlysupport your diet goals but also help you to maintain the structure youhave created over the holidays.
10. Reach Out. Think about doing some volunteer work or reach out toothers in order to let go of the self-focus that can sabotage your resolve.
11. Set Limits. Make a plan about boundaries that may need to be setwith others. For example, “Thanks for your concern, but I don’t care totalk about my weight,” or “Please leave it up to me to decide about theportions and foods I will eat.”
12. Talk To Yourself. Make use of positive self-talk statements. Thismay include such things as: “I have a right to say no;” “I know I canhandle this situation;” “I amhonoring my health by making this choice;” “I am worth taking special careof myself during this season;” “I don’t have to do this perfectly but canfocus on doing a few positive healthy things each day.” You can also followthis up with a gratitude list at the end of each day, no matter how smallit may be.
13. Forgive Yourself. If you binge, overeat or indulge in foods yougenerally avoid, this doesn’t mean you have “fallen off the wagon.” Remindyourself that this behavior will decrease over time, as you develophealthier attitudes and eating practices. Don’t punish what you perceive as”bad” by stuffing yourself or depriving yourself. Instead, recognize whatyou are feeling and give yourself what you need.
14. Honor Yourself. You are the one, who decides what foods make eatinga positive experience for you. Recognize the things that support yourgoals and remind yourself to repeat them until they become second nature.This is the best way to generate a lasting effect.
15. Take Inventory. When you feel the urge to eat, decide if you areactually hungry. If not, try to figure out what you really do want at thatmoment and respond suitably. The most common reasons for over-indulging areembodied in the acronym HALT — for Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired. Ofcourse, there are other reasons too, such as being bored, frustrated,unsatisfied, nervous and the like. Food is not a satisfactory resolution toany of these needs.
16. Reward Yourself. Keep an ongoing list of activities other than eatingthat enable you to relax,regroup, and satisfy real needs. Post it someplace where you will see itbefore unthinkingly reaching for something to eat.
17. Be Optimistic. Many dieters have come to believe that efforts tochange their eating habits, exercise, weight, and such are bound to fail(again)! As you try to make changes, do you become discouraged by the”failures” you perceive along the way? How you view the events in your lifecan make a big difference to the outcome. So, rather than bemoaningsetbacks along the way, look for ways to work around them or push throughthem. Successful people view obstacles as temporary deterrents and achallenge, rather than a sign of failure.
18. Stay Calm. Make an extra effort to begin each day with some meditationor deep breathing, even if it is just for 10 minutes. This can set the tonefor the day. Take mini-relaxation breaks during the day as well. The ideais to simply sit quietly and clear your mind.
19. Use Social Smarts. Plan your social life, so it doesn’t revolvearound food. Invite friends over for a game of cards instead of dinner;organize a book or movie club, where you discuss something you’ve read orseen; go out to a concert instead of a restaurant; plan a walk with afriend rather than sitting down to a cup of coffee.
20. Be A Learner. Consider everything as instructive. If you aren’t happywith the path your diet is taking, think about what you can do differentlynext time. Try to find the useful parts in what has occurred and use thisinformation to move you forward.
21. Honor Everyone. Appreciate the diversity in size and shape of thepeople around you. Let people know that health, beauty and satisfying livescome in all sizes. Keep in mind that what we weigh is only a small part ofwho we are. And be sensitive to others, rememberingthat what people weigh isn’t a subject for unsolicited comments or advice.
22. Enjoy. Finally, take pleasure in the foods you choose to eat. Food canbe your ally, rather than your enemy, if you adopt these ideas. Remember,only you are ultimately responsible for your health and diet choices, notfamily, friends, partners, therapists or others in your support network.